Post year 1.

He used to tell me he didn’t wear his wedding ring at work because it would get caught on the trays. This was back when he waited tables… and even after he was done waiting tables he never wore his ring again… not since 1998. And I bought it.

Even after I went in the restaurant one day - and a server- her name was Heather, Heather was cute as a button. Petite. Short blonde hair. I was 4 months out of my last baby and not feeling very perky… Now Heather, she comes up to inform me- “No matter what you might hear, I’m not having an affair with your husband, we’re just best friends. " That’s funny. I thought ‘I’ was his best friend. But, I let it roll off my back.

When I look back on that day now- I realize, I wait tables, divorced, but still wearing his wedding ring- just cause I like how it feels on my hand- and it NEVER gets caught on a tray. Not once. In fact, its actually very nice every time the wood grain slides over it and I get to remember that its there.

I got 2 compliments on it today alone and I only had 3 tables. It’s a nice and heavy, chunky square silver ring that I got as a set for our 1 year anniversary. Mine I outgrew a while ago. His is mostly too big and it spins around my finger. But with it, I can flirt and people think I’m harmless and married. I am harmless just not so married.

He told me once that he knew within a year we had made a mistake- and the love was gone. He claims to have stayed together for the children. Math would suggest he had other motivations. I mean, he did wait until 6 months after his 'citizenship' to ask for a divorce. he wasnt so worried about the children by then.

I dont agree with staying together for children. But it has taken me waaaaaaay a loong time to live doing what is best for my girls to see. And I'm sure wearing this ring is one of those things I need to get past- which is why ts on my thumb most of the time.

I am a person who speaks deliberately. Sure, I kid and I dont make sense too much of the time... But people are not often confused about how i feel for them. I want to meet a man who speaks in a straight line. That would be my equal.

( Gemini's need not sign up.)